Its not about always getting your own way, or getting other people to do what you want.

These kinds of beliefs are self-fulfilling - if you believe that you cant cope, then the chances are that you wont cope. Take the bus for five stops, sitting apart from helper. Youll always judge yourself in the worst way and never give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Just let the attack happen naturally, and in most, if not all, cases, their bodies will help them come out of the 'hot' zone all on it's own. I can feel joy as well as sadness. BRIDGET Just like the mountain climber has tools to help him on his way, you have your positive thinking, breathing exercises and relaxation techniques to help you through it. Finding the motivation for change If change feels too challenging, and you arent sure that you want to engage with it, then try this exercise. Try cutting out every other drink, or make your drinks smaller. Patients may go to any lengths to improve their appearance, including using methods that are dangerous. If they need a lot of support from that person they may then start to feel guilty about it, or perhaps resentful that the person isnt doing enough to help. Why should this be? Exercise Read through the four personality types and decide which ones your Anxiety has enlisted to help. Mental arithmetic - start from 100 and count backwards in 7s, or multiply numbers together. It helps to talk to someone about this, and if you dont have someone you can confide in, then use a helpline or online service (see Apdix 2 for details). If you continue with your healthy lifestyle, and your positive thinking, continue to be more assertive in dealing with other people and continue to release feelings instead of bottling them up, then you will change in ways that you would not have thought possible. Emotional reasoning can also be a barrier to good decision making. While you are in the grip of an Anxiety disorder its easy to think that life would be wonderful and simple if only you werent so anxious. I quit a year and a half ago, now feel healthier though still anxious but now I dont have the added anxiety of needing a tab (cigarette). I used to drink but very rarely do now, as I am calorie conscious. Any vigorous activity counts, as long as it makes you breathe hard - scrub a floor, run up some stairs, swing your arms about. The basic steps in problem solving are: What are the chances of this haping, or of this being true?